Divorce isn’t an experience many people expect to go through in their lives. Because it’s generally assumed that divorce is a painful process, some are reluctant to initiate it, failing to consider how getting a divorce now can result in much greater happiness for everyone involved (including the kids) in the long run.
No one can tell you for certain whether you should file for divorce or continue striving to make your relationship work. This is a very personal decision you must make for yourself. That said, if you’re not sure where you stand on the topic, it could help to ask yourself the following questions:
Have we genuinely tried to address our issues?
You may feel more confident in your decision to get a divorce if you can, upon reflection, honestly say you and your spouse made a worthy attempt to resolve your differences through other means.
What these other means consist of may vary from one couple to another. Some may believe marriage counseling is necessary before making a decision about divorce. Others, who are more religious, may feel the need to work with spiritual leaders to determine if doing so might help them mend a marriage.
The main point to understand is that there are different ways to try to overcome the issues that can plague a relationship. If you thoroughly feel you’ve made a true attempt to resolve the situation in a way that makes everyone happy, and your efforts have been unsuccessful, perhaps it’s time to start seriously considering divorce.
Am I prepared emotionally?
Again, only you can ultimately decide if you’re ready to proceed with ending a marriage. That said, you should remember that getting a divorce could be ideal for your emotional wellness if you’re currently unhappy with your relationship.
In other words, it isn’t necessarily wise to decide not to get a divorce because you’re concerned about the emotional difficulties you may face throughout the process. The emotional rewards may be worth the challenge. That said, if you’re thinking about filing for divorce, you should nevertheless prepare for the way this experience will impact you emotionally.
For example, perhaps you’ll get ready by organizing an “emotional support team” consisting of close family members and friends you can trust to confide in. Or, you may begin speaking with a therapist to ensure you can discuss these matters with a professional.
Why am I filing for divorce?
It’s such a basic question to ask yourself that some people actually forget to do so.
You’re thinking about filing for divorce because you’re unhappy with your marriage. However, you might feel more comfortable moving forward with this process if you first take the time to identify the very specific reasons you think this is the best course of action. This can help you decide if you’re acting impulsively or if you have truly valid reasons to get a divorce.
If you do conclude that getting a divorce is the right choice, it’s also vital that you prepare accordingly by hiring a qualified attorney. At the Law Offices of Ronald K. Stitch, you’ll find a Westlake Village divorce lawyer with the experience necessary to provide the representation you deserve. Learn more about what we can do for you by contacting us online or calling us at 818-237-4574.