Studies show that premarital agreements are becoming increasingly common among couples in the United States. In the past, some couples may have been reluctant to enter into premarital or prenuptial agreements due to the stigma attached to this measure. Quite simply, many have long believed that entering into a premarital agreement indicates a lack of optimism in the future of a marriage before the wedding ceremony has even taken place.
Attitudes are beginning to change. In reality, entering into a premarital agreement is a very responsible step that can help couples guard against potential future stress. It can also allow them to enter their marriages more confidently, knowing they’ve made specific critical arrangements beforehand. Many younger couples are starting to see this.
However, there remain some who don’t yet appreciate that “getting a prenup” is not code for “I don’t think this marriage is going to work.”
You may have reason to believe your soon-to-be spouse is such a person. While you may consider entering into a premarital agreement before the wedding an intelligent decision, you might also worry your partner doesn’t feel the same way.
Keep the following advice in mind if you need it. These tips will help you bring up the topic with greater ease:
Don’t Wait Too Long
You may be reluctant to discuss a prenup simply because you doubt the conversation will be pleasant. This is understandable.
That said, it’s essential to understand that officially entering into a premarital agreement can take several months. You don’t want to rush this, so the sooner you bring up the topic, the better.
Emphasize the Positive
Again, a common reason some don’t consider entering into premarital agreements is the perception that doing so is the same as giving up on marriage before it’s begun.
That’s not the case. The opposite may be true.
Numerous studies and surveys confirm that money issues are one of the leading causes of divorce in the country. If you enter a premarital agreement, you can address these issues before marriage. This can reduce your chances of deciding on a divorce for the best in the future.
Show How a Premarital Agreement Would Benefit Them
Your partner may be more inclined to be grateful that you’ve brought up the topic of a premarital agreement if you spend at least as much time covering how such an agreement would protect them as you do explaining why you want to enter into one.
For example, maybe you still have debts. You might not want those debts to become your spouse’s debts when you marry. A premarital agreement can ensure that doesn’t happen.
That said, be aware that drafting a thorough and enforceable premarital agreement may not be a task you can address independently. Instead, strongly consider hiring a lawyer to help you. At The Law Offices of Ronald K. Stitch, a Westlake Village premarital agreement attorney, you can learn more by contacting us online or calling us at 818-707-0202.
